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Connecting with Kids: The Power of Love Languages


Have you ever considered the power of Love Languages when it comes to connecting with your children? The concept, originally coined by Dr. Gary Chapman for couples, has evolved into a valuable tool for parents and caregivers to build strong, loving bonds with their children.

Understanding Love Language
Love languages are all about how individuals both give and receive love. Identifying your child’s primary love language, or a combination of two, can significantly benefit your parent-child relationship. It ensures that your child not only knows they’re loved, but also feels it deeply.

The Five Love Languages and Their Application to Children:
1. Words of Affirmation: Expressing love, praise, appreciation, and encouragement through words. Connect through words of affirmation by saying “I love you” often, acknowledging your child’s achievements, leaving sweet notes in unexpected places, and sharing what you love about them.
2. Quality Time: Providing your child with focused, undivided attention shows you love them and value their company. Connect through quality time by engaging in conversations, enjoying activities, scheduling one-on-one time, and prioritising family meals.
3. Physical Touch: Children thrive on loving physical touch, especially during infancy. Connect through physical touch with hugs, kisses, cuddles, playful activities like wrestling, holding hands, and story time.
4. Gifts: For some children, receiving a physical gift symbolises love and affection. It’s about the thought and effort behind the gift. Connect through gift giving by selecting items aligned with your child’s interests, surprising them with thoughtful gifts, and creating treasure hunts.
5. Acts of Service: Doing things for your child to make them feel cared for and special is another love language.

Connect through acts of service by preparing special meals, engaging in their favourite activities, assisting with tasks, and completing their chores.

Understanding your child’s love language is a valuable tool to show love and nurture, and it helps you notice when your child is expressing love. Being aware of your own love language but responding in your child’s love language can further strengthen the parent-child bond.

Take the Love Language Quiz with Your Child. It’s a fun way to connect and learn something new together:


Article Written + Submitted by

Sussan Omar | Parenting Facilitator

Nepean Community & Neighbourhood Services


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